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Dealing with Procrastination

Posted by coachkimcollins on September 27, 2012

In my experience most people procrastinate for several reasons. Here are some strategies that may help deal with some of them.

  1. The task or project is so big it seems overwhelming. Start immediately by defining the next physical action step you need to take. Remember it needs to be a physical action such as: find, read, write, gather, print, etc. Working with next action steps, shrinks the overall task or project into smaller, less overwhelming pieces.
  2. The task is confusing. When confusion isn’t cleared up it can lead to feelings of helplessness and hopelessness which can then lead to escapist behavior (i.e. procrastination). The best way to avoid this is to ask questions immediately. Find out who you can go to for clarification. Be honest about needing help and have the courage to ask for it.
  3. The task is boring and /or you just don’t want to do it. First, ask yourself if the task really needs to be done, then ask, does it have to be done by you. If you have to do it, find a way to make it less boring. Try using music, TV, talk radio, an audio book, working with someone else in the room or even on the telephone; set a timer and plan a reward for when you are done.
  4.  Perfectionism. When you feel that you have to do something perfectly you are usually setting yourself up for trouble. First, you have to change your standards. Not everything has to be an “A” job. Before you begin a task define what an “A”, “B” & “C” job would look like. Focus on working towards the “C” job. If there is still time left once you’ve completed your task, you can take that extra time to bring it up to a “B” or even an “A” job. Next, give yourself permission to write a bad first draft just to get something on paper. Once you get started it’s usually easier to keep going. Finally, limit your time. It’s amazing what we can produce when we are down to the wire with a limited amount of time. Sometimes simulating a time crunch can get you moving past perfection.

DISCLAIMER: All information contained in this post is based on the author’s personal and professional experience and is provided for informational purposes only. Tips and recommendations are provided to help adults with ADHD and Executive Function difficulties but may not work for everyone. So, please accept this information in the positive spirit in which it is given. Positive comments and experiences that will help others are always welcome.

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Embrace Your Imperfection

Posted by coachkimcollins on June 5, 2010

Do you find yourself consistently putting yourself down, comparing yourself to others, or filling your head with negative self talk?

Imagine how your life would change if you looked at yourself on a deeper level; and instead of seeing yourself as not good enough, you saw yourself as the beautiful imperfect person that you are.

There is a Japanese term that I have been reading about recently called Wabi Sabi.

Wabi sabi is a term that describes the beauty to be found in imperfection. It originates in Japan, where artists will often leave subtle fractures in the glaze of a vase or a rough surface on a bowl as a reminder of the wabi-sabi nature of life. Wabi sabi recognizes that all of life is in a constant state of change and that decay is as much a part of life as growth.

This philosophy finds beauty in aging, both in things and in people. It encourages us to be content with what we have, rather than to always strive for more. Many of us live in a state of constant dissatisfaction and unhappiness with the way things are right now.

Wabi Sabi is not an excuse to be lazy or sloppy. To me it means to always strive for improvement while accepting the “imperfectness” of who we are.

“We may fall, but it’s how we pick ourselves up that shows our true grace” – Coach Kim

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