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Posted by coachkimcollins on October 2, 2012
Posted by coachkimcollins on January 13, 2012
Maybe instead of looking at what you want this year, you should look at who you want to be.
Here is an exercise to help you figure it out:
- Take a blank piece of paper and write at the top “I want to be a person who…”
- Then, set a timer for 60 seconds and write down all the words that come to your mind without censoring or erasing.
- Next, take this list of words and phrases and find pictures, images, and even songs – anything that evokes a visual or emotional representation of your words.
- Put these items in a physical folder or a digital folder. Set a recurring reminder to look at these things on the first of every month.
- By the end of the year you can evaluate if you have become the person you wanted to be.
Posted by coachkimcollins on November 14, 2011
I have recently begun working on a project powered by AARP, YouTube, MyAssist, and other key partners. The Life Reimagined Project asks the question “What’s Next” in your life? As an ADHD Coach I typically work with clients on a more micro level of discovery. However, looking at the big picture of “What’s Next” is an important aspect in creating your own future.
The Life Reimagined Project invites people of all ages and stages of life to share their stories of inspiration, discover their strengths, and connect to mentors and peers who will support and help them further their dreams.
I hope that you will join me in helping yourself as well as others, reimagine their lives. This is a great opportunity to educate those who are not familiar with how ADHD truly impacts people. And, it will give you a chance to share your wisdom and experience with those who are struggling to make their way through the ADHD maze.
Join me at The Life Reimagined Project and make a difference!
Posted by coachkimcollins on January 10, 2011
Believe it or not but we are already over a week into the New Year. Have you already dropped your New Year’s Resolutions? If so, instead of giving up completely why not try to make a “More or Less” list for 2011.
Start by making a list of what you want More of and then figure out what you will have to do Less of in order to get More of what you want. For example, I want more free time in 2011. Therefore, I will hold my weekends sacred for just me, my family and friends. In order to have More free time I will have to check my email Less on weekends.
The trick is to think in non-perfectionist terms so that you will feel successful even if you do just a little More or a little Less than you did last year!
Posted by coachkimcollins on August 24, 2010
When you are having trouble getting started, moving forward, or following through on a task or project – do you ever consider asking for help?
for many of my clients asking for help is the last thing on their list of options.
But if you’re not getting things done because you don’t have the information you need or the expertise to do something, you could save yourself a lot of time, energy and frustration by asking for help.
Here are some tips on asking for help:
- Stop worrying about looking foolish. No one knows everything and we all need help at sometime in our lives.
- If you are spending more time looking for an answer than actually working on the project – it’s time to ask for help.
- It’s okay to ask for help to find information you need or to brainstorm a problem or issue.
- Sometimes asking for help means delegating all or part of the work, trading jobs, or even hiring someone to do the job for you.
- Most importantly, don’t wait for the last-minute to ask for help. People are usually happy to lend a hand when they’re not inconvenienced at the last-minute.
Posted by coachkimcollins on June 12, 2010
I am really not good at remembering names. As soon as someone introduces themselves to me I almost immediately forget their name unless I have made a conscious effort to connect it to something or someone that is meaningful to me.
For example, in order to remember the names of the ladies in my physical therapists office I had to connect each one of them to something familiar. For Shannon, I think of Shannon Daugherty from the TV show 90210, for Sherry, I think of cooking sherry. And, for Sandy I think of the person who trained me as any ADHD Coach, Sandy Maynard.
I have discovered that making memory connections is not just important for remembering names but is helpful in remembering other things. For instance, if someone is telling me a story that I want to remember. I try to relate it to a similar situation that I have been through or have seen on TV. If I have to remember a word or list of things (and I can’t write it down). I form a picture or song in my head “staring” that word or list of words.
What memory tricks do you use?
Posted by coachkimcollins on June 5, 2010
Do you find yourself consistently putting yourself down, comparing yourself to others, or filling your head with negative self talk?
Imagine how your life would change if you looked at yourself on a deeper level; and instead of seeing yourself as not good enough, you saw yourself as the beautiful imperfect person that you are.
There is a Japanese term that I have been reading about recently called Wabi Sabi.
Wabi sabi is a term that describes the beauty to be found in imperfection. It originates in Japan, where artists will often leave subtle fractures in the glaze of a vase or a rough surface on a bowl as a reminder of the wabi-sabi nature of life. Wabi sabi recognizes that all of life is in a constant state of change and that decay is as much a part of life as growth.
This philosophy finds beauty in aging, both in things and in people. It encourages us to be content with what we have, rather than to always strive for more. Many of us live in a state of constant dissatisfaction and unhappiness with the way things are right now.
Wabi Sabi is not an excuse to be lazy or sloppy. To me it means to always strive for improvement while accepting the “imperfectness” of who we are.
“We may fall, but it’s how we pick ourselves up that shows our true grace” – Coach Kim
Posted by coachkimcollins on May 25, 2010
When was the last time that you focused on how great you are? ADDers in particular tend to get so stuck in the cycle of disappointment, self-doubt, frustration and overwhelm that they forget to look at themselves in a positive light.
- What are your talents and strengthens?
- What do people compliment you on?
- What brings out passion in you?
- What do you love doing (whether you are good at it or not)?
One of my favorite quotes is:
“Everything can be taken from a man but …the last of the human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” Viktor Frankl
So remember, you can choose to focus on what’s wrong with you or you can choose to focus on what’s great about you!
- Start by speaking kindly to yourself.
- Surround yourself with positive people
- Create an environment that reflects your uniqueness
- Build a collection of affirmations to keep you focused on the positive
- Give yourself permission to have FUN!